If you look at history, a man who really likes a woman will often be obsessed with her. On the other hand, when a man’s heart is drawn to a woman, he can’t stop thinking about her. Obsession causes men to do foolish things that can creep a lady out. These men will go to great lengths and do anything to be with the woman that they love. Women have curious and want to know why men can get so obsessed with them. Without doing it on purpose, women do things that have a magical effect on men. This magical effect drives men nuts about certain women. When a man has an infatuation with a woman, he literally can get sick to his stomach. He thinks that you can’t wait to get a call or text from him. When women pull away from the man, the attraction in many cases turns to obsession. Sometimes obsession comes about through a one-night stand. There is such physical intensity in a physical encounter. Physical intensity makes men naturally think that they have a bond with a woman. A woman may have a certain appeal that really heightens a man’s arousal. Here are some of the things that women find creepy.
HE TALKS ABOUT CHANGING YOU
When a man talks about changing a woman, this can really freak her out. Love can be naïve and alter a person’s perspective about you. It’s one thing to grow with someone you love. But it’s another thing when someone tries to change you and fit you into their mold. Especially if you two are not a couple. Talks about changing your personality means a man is starting to become obsessed with you. Women love it when men love them just the way they are. These are a lot of signs when this is not the case. They might ask you to find a different job. If you’re not like someone else, they constantly compare you to another person. Ultimatums, often given, happen if a change does not occur. They may also try to control how you dress. Men can be incredibly nice to you if you’re doing exactly what they want. However, the tables turn when you go the opposite direction.
HE SPENDS HOURS LOOKING AT YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA PAGES AND LEAVES TOO MANY COMMENTS
The pleasurable feeling that a person gets when spending hours at looking at your social media pages is something that is extremely common. Why do men do it? What is so enticing about social media that gets the adrenaline going? Studies show that men interested in women constantly look at their social media pages to gather insight on what is going on in their life. It doesn’t just stop there. They post way too many comments on your page on a regular basis. Men might be jealous and want to spy on you to see what is going on. Sometimes men do an investigation on a woman and delve into her background. Once it starts, the person who is doing it is unlikely to stop.
HE SAYS WONDERFUL THINGS TO YOU BUT IS MEAN TO YOU AT A MOMENT’S NOTICE
Usually, a man starts off as your boyfriend. You might date him for a few months, and at that time you are deliriously happy. Your boyfriend mentions that you two are perfectly suited for one another. Every time you’re together, it’s pure heaven. Then suddenly, he goes from worshiping the ground you walk on to having second thoughts about the relationship. After having second thoughts, he pulls back emotionally. Why is he doing this? Days after telling you that he is crazy about you, he suddenly breaks up. The man doesn’t have the nerve to do it in person, but he breaks up via text. During the relationship, he flip-flops. Praising you at one moment when everything is fine, but it turns to pure hatred at the flip of the switch. A changing personality can freak a woman out. The way a woman should look at this is that she is blessed by not getting permanently hitched to somebody who is highly volatile.
HE DEVELOPS RAGE OR IS VIOLENT IF YOU REFUSE TO BE HIS GIRLFRIEND
Sometimes a woman dates a man who seems to have a history of being toxic. Many things can predict the kind of relationship that you will have with such a man. Watch out for the man who gets angry all the time, especially when you want to break it off. We are not talking about a man who is violent or abusive, but a man with a temper that overreacts. This kind of behavior is inexcusable. He may develop rage at the beginning of your relationship and then go overboard when you try to end it. Let’s look at the situation. A man like this that gets angry all the time is not thinking reasonably, because he feels as though he’s being attacked. Looking at it from his point of view, being angry all the time is a life and death struggle. Most men will not physically abuse a woman. But you never know what this type of behavior will lead to.
HE STARTS ACTING LIKE YOUR BOYFRIEND
It’s one thing if a woman is head over heels over a man. But it’s another thing if she is just not interested. A guy can get really creepy when this happens. On the other hand, if you like the man who is pursuing you, these actions will impress you. It just depends on how you feel about the guy who has the hots for you. If you don’t like him, these actions will creep you out:
⦁ He assumes that you will go out on a date with him. ⦁ He takes an interest in your interests, he completely ignores his own. ⦁ He is proud to be around you all the time, he is constantly by your side. ⦁ Questions come up about how you might feel about him. ⦁ Efforts to impress you are ongoing. ⦁ Jealousy crops up if you’re interested in another man. ⦁ He plans for your future come up when you never bring up the topic. ⦁ He needs to be protective is something he does all the time. ⦁ Interest in other women do not cross his mind, and he stops pursuing other girls.
HE DOESN’T UNDERSTAND THE WORD NO
Men, if they are true men, will understand that no means no. What creeps a woman out is when a man has no respect for what she wants to do. Guys can be such babies about the word no. Women need to tell this type of man to grow up. It’s hard to subject yourself to this kind of pressure when the man will not leave you alone. A woman has to show a man that she is in charge of her own life. Looking a man straight in the eye telling him no with a firm voice sometimes will do the trick. If a woman doesn’t have success with this trick, it is because the man has a mindset that all women should bow down to his needs. Some men look at no as a sign of affection. Ridiculous as it sounds, some men believe this. If it becomes a real problem, it’s time to get a restraining order.
HE THINKS YOU ARE PERFECT
If a man thinks you’re too good to be true, it might be in your best interest to let this one fly by, because he might not be the right one for you. You might be too good for him. Many guys may use the line, “You are just too perfect.” He might be covering up how he feels, and a breakup would be inevitable if you gave this man a chance. Another thing men do is that they freak out on the inside. They just won’t admit it. A real man that is right for you isn’t going to freak out on the inside. He might give you some compliments and appreciate your good and genuine nature. It’s the weaker guy that will say that a woman is perfect. Having a man that thinks you’re too perfect freaks girls out.
HE PUTS YOU UP ON AN UNREALISTIC PEDESTAL
A woman should never date a man who puts her on any kind of unrealistic pedestal. Excited to be by your side, he’ll ask you out, buy gifts and call you all the time. But over a period of time, something happens. He will decide to pull back. He will stop making plans to do things like he used to. What did you do wrong? Doesn’t he like you anymore? These are the thoughts that go through your head. A woman needs to have some sort of plan when dating men. Acting a certain way will attract men who will not put you up on an unrealistic pedestal. Think about it. Attracting a nice guy emotionally and intellectually will make him want to be with you all of the time, and it can be really nice. He won’t make any excuses. He won’t say he’s too busy. The only thing that’s on his mind is you. To date this type of man, you need to understand what you’re looking for and not settle for anything but the best.
HE TRIES TO BREAK UP YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP
Women tend to be very territorial when it comes to things that belong to them. One of the most territorial things is a woman’s relationship with another man. Having to deal with a man who is trying to break up a current relationship that you have, naturally, will bring out your claws. This is something that happens at least once in a woman’s life. The fact that nobody wants to talk about is this: part of the reason why you’re having problems with the man trying to break up your relationship is that you contributed to the problem. Giving a man that you suspect might like you attention is not good. If you’re involved in a relationship with someone else, you need to cut this man off. Something that you can do to fix the problem is to confront the man who is causing you grief. People don’t like confrontation, but this can be the most efficient way to deal with the problem.
HE IS CLINGY AND ATTACHES HIMSELF TO YOU AT EVERY MOMENT AND WILL NOT LEAVE
There is a difference between a clingy guy and one who is attentive to a woman’s needs. When you start dating a man who likes you, find out if he is obsessed with you. You don’t want to be the woman that dates a guy who is obsessed with you. If you become this type of woman, this means he is not dating other people, which means he might not be in demand. Men like this don’t have a life. A man who gives a woman attention will not text or call frequently. When a man contacts you, he should have something of substance to say. The clingy man will just use short phrases like LOL and OK. When you’re dealing with the clingy guy, he will not have lots of hobbies. A man who is attentive has lots of hobbies, and he schedules you into his life.
HE IS AROUND ALL THE TIME AND IS OVERLY HELPFUL
Do you have a computer? Do you own a piece of software? Let’s say the software started doing extra things for you that you didn’t want it to do. For one, it asks you if you want to do something you absolutely have no interest in. For example, the software will start numbering things when you’re creating a list. But you don’t want to do that. At least not yet. The software is too helpful, and it drives you nuts. Explaining how a piece of software can be overly helpful is exactly like people that can help too much. Being too helpful backfires, and people don’t want to be around someone who helps all the time. The person that is being too helpful is someone who wants to win your affection. But they’re going about it the wrong way. What’s worse is the person who really likes you is around practically 24/7. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes letting a woman do something all by herself will prompt a need. When this happens, she will ask you for help.
HE SPIES ON YOU WHENEVER HE CAN
Everyone has a gut feeling that spying on someone you care about is a horribly bad idea. Everybody has an odd bug inside of them that makes them want to snoop or spy. Nothing good comes from it and it leads to some horribly sticky situations. If a partner doesn’t trust the person they’re in a relationship with, why are both of you together? On the other hand, if you have a man that is interested in you and he always spies on you, this is a man that you don’t want in your life. Snooping and spying can lead to stalking. When men who spy on women that they like, it will bring nothing but pain into their life. Guys who feel the need to spy are doing it from a position of fear, doubt, insecurity, and distrust. A man that has doubts is not a man that a woman wants to date.
HE SAYS HE’S DEPRESSED WITHOUT YOU
Dating a man who is depressed when he is not with you is a man who is not happy being alone. Going out with this type of individual can lead to a relationship struggle and result in emotional instability on your part. Some will date this kind of person without looking at the warning signs. Being with a man who is depressed is like playing a game where there is no winner. You can’t be with the one you love all the time. So, having a reliable partner is essential to making the relationship work. People have to learn how to be happy by themselves. Also, there are many things a doctor can do to cure depression. It takes time, and it takes a lot of work. Depression makes a person seem like a stranger that you don’t even know. Protecting your emotional well-being is way greater than dating someone because you feel sorry for them. If you meet a man like this, don’t date him and move on.
HE BOMBARDS YOU WITH TONS OF MESSAGES AFTER HE HAS ONLY MET YOU ONCE
Carol came across a man on an online dating site and wrote back and forth for a couple of days, then set a date to meet. The day went pretty well; then both exchanged phone numbers. Ever since the meeting, Billy texts Carol way too much. Not only does Billy text way too much, but he also asks way too many personal questions. Asking too many questions really can freak a woman out, so much so that she will not want to go out with him again. Carol and Billy had a date the other night, but the weather was not that great, and they had to reschedule. Billy will not leave Carol alone. The postponement of the date came with more messages. Carol likes getting text messages from boys she is interested in, but not this much. Billy is going too far and talking as if they were best friends or in a serious relationship. Looking at it from Carol’s point of view, this texting came after meeting Billy for just one hour. Carol feels like this is what it will be like if she dated a clingy man. This type of behavior from Billy is just pushing Carol away.
HE TRIES TO GET CLOSE TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO WIN YOU OVER
Sometimes a man who is interested in a woman will try to get close to her friends and family to win her over. If a guy does this without the woman knowing about it, it can freak her out. Many times, if a man who is interested in a woman meets her friends and family, he might pawn himself off as her boyfriend. When this happens, this just adds fuel to the fire. Men like this are hard to brush off. Women need to take a firm stance to regain their life back. Getting too close to a girl’s friends and family is a quick way for a woman to lose respect for a man. After that, the woman is less attracted to him. The loss of respect means she will distance herself from the man who is interested in her.